Today is a Good Day
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 by Laramie Boyd
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          Have you ever given some thought to trying to recall the very best day of your life? The day that stands out as a day you would gladly repeat over and over, a day you will never forget, a day the likes of which you hope you experience again at some future point in time.
          Maybe it was your high school or college graduation day, or when you were issued your driver's license? Your first car, your first date, the first kiss, the first time you felt you were in love?
          Some people might choose their wedding day, or the day their first child was born, or even their last child? Or maybe each of the days their children graduated from high school or college? How about your first grandchild? Or maybe when you got your first career job, or that promotion you worked hard for? Could it just be the last time your Mom or Dad or Wife or some close friend told you they loved you? Maybe it was the day you told them how much you loved them?
          If you're lucky, you don't have an easy time picking out the very best day, because there were so many memorable days to choose from, and they all blend in and make up your very satisfying life, a life you would live over again in a heartbeat.
          Did you have a loved one return from a war, safe and sound? Did a loved one get news from a doctor that the cancer was gone, or maybe at least in remission? Was it a day when you "got religion", in whatever form it might have taken, or the day an alcoholic loved one, or you, gave up the bottle? Any of these would surely be in the running for "best day."
          In the movie "City Slickers", a cowboy was asked to pick his best day and his worst day, and as it turned out, for him it was the same day. Maybe we could all make an effort to concentrate a little more on trying to remember the good things that have happened in our lives, not dwelling on the bad. Why is it that sometimes the bad recollections seem to outnumber the good memories we have? Many professional golfers say the hardest thing for them to do is to erase from their minds the bad shots they have made, rather than to recall the good shots. The trouble is, even the great golfer Ben Hogan admitted, as a matter of fact, that he made many more bad shots than good shots. So it's easy to say "be positive", but not so easy to be positive.
          In these globally uncertain, unsettling times, maybe we could be happier if we could try not to see the events of the day as catastrophic, no matter the source of the news, but rather find some grain of optimism, some hope that things will be okay, that they will work out, that they may not turn out as bad as we suspect they might. Let's challenge ourselves to do that. Let's try, for a period of time each day, to see some good in what we would usually find so discouraging as to almost ruin our whole day, or more. What happened on the very best day of your life? Let's try to do something that will make today one of our very best days ever.